How to strengthen relationships?

Strengthen relationships, first and foremost with our own self

Now-a-days our relationships are strained and we realized the need to work on them. Before we work on our relationship with others, first there is a need to strengthen our relationship with our self.  If we have taken care of our self then the relationship with the other person is automatically taken care of. It seems pointless, but it is true. Yes, this should be the first foundation step towards fixing our relationships.

1.  Form a relationship with your own self. For this, we need to know our self. Wondering ‘how will I know myself’ or ‘don’t I know myself’? We knowing our self means being aware of our thoughts.  If we can sense or see our thoughts with our mind’s eye then we can direct them towards positivity. A person, who has self-control on his thoughts, can master any skill; it can be even fixing strenuous relationships, with a boss or in-laws or an old friend.  Know that, we are the creators of our own thoughts. See yourself and every person interacting with you as a pure soul. This minimizes many issues in relationships.
2.  Stop abusing yourself with worry and fear of future: Every one of us has an addiction. For example: fear of future, worry, feeling of unfulfilled desires, negativity, loss of hope, hurting our self with our own memories, alcoholism, etc. These are all our habits/thoughts that are eating us from inside. The only profit from these wasteful thoughts is that we are depleting our energy at a rocket speed. Our body is the temple of the pure soul/ spirit/energy, i.e. I, the soul. All this baggage we dumped on it will wear us down. Gently remove these habits or thoughts one after another with positive thinking such as, “I am a happy, loving and peaceful soul”. 
3. Search for the LOVE inside you to replace the bliss that an addiction or a false relaxing activity is giving. False relaxing activities are: shopping, watching a movie when we are sad, consuming alcohol, smoking, going into past and reliving the moments, chatting with friends, etc. These acts will never cure our pain; they only help us to forget the issue for a while. Because, the issue will not vanish until we resolve it in our mind. We are the best doctor and medicine for our own addictions/stress/hurt. Dig in and search for the abundant treasure of happiness inside you. Remember you are a happy being because you are the creator of your thoughts.We can do this in a millionth of a second and we can land on the planet of happiness, right in our–self, our own MIND. Happy discovering-self.
4.  Work on stabilizing your relationships: Hard to handle relationships and situations fall in place automatically once we have taken care of our self. For example, you have a conflict with your boss, life partner, in-law. How do you resolve these?  …..Continuation in next part…

By Brahma kumaris

Novice can turn dejection into success

Newbie can turn dejection into success

(This article is intended to help newbies but not to downgrade seniors.  Most of the employees welcome a new hire and treat them equal but if the situation is different then, my article is to help them see the situation with clarity. Please convey your opinion through comments. Thanks)

  Every new employee walks into an organization with lot of dreams to achieve great heights of success. A novice may feel dejection from some seniors or people who are established in the firm. Juniors need not lose faith in their ability or sulk upon rejection. It is important to move forward with confidence in such situations.
Then how to rise in the field that is new and is filled with opponents who are not willing to accept new ideas or participation?  
In order to assess the situation, the new employee should step into the shoe of a senior to understand the reason for their in-acceptance.
Tips to turn senior’s dejection into acceptance and achieve success in the new field 
Seniors suppress new guys because they fear losing their power. Then how a new guy can shine in a new field? 
1. First, understand and recognize that seniors are a treasure for the company because of their experience and contribution. You have a lot to learn from their experience and you respect them. Convey to the seniors that you respect them. Initiate a casual conversation and somewhere in the middle of the conversation say, ‘I respect you immensely for the experience you carry and the success you have achieved in this competitive field’. This will ease up the situation.

2. This paves way for you to show your talent. When you get a chance, express ‘what you learned about the organization and show your interest to grow in the field’. Start putting forward your ideas. But, remember to do it very gently so that they will not see this as a threat to their position. 
 3. Present your idea with lot of research that supports it. Show them how your idea is going to work. Always show numbers, for example: how much profit, in how many days- this idea will bring to your organization. This shows that you are seriously interested in helping to bring success to this business. Your interest is in the company success but not in overpowering anybody.

4. Also, show how your idea is unique and how it is going to work for sure.

Psychology based understanding of the situation:
What happens when a new employee joins the organization that is full of experienced professionals? 
 1. Some seniors see this new candidate as a CHANGE and may not welcome his/her ideas.  
 2. Junior feels dejection, loses hope in achieving success in the new field.

Whenever there is a CHANGE, people fear. Fear is not about ‘the results this CHANGE might bring’ but people fear that they might lose ‘what they have, such as: respect, position, their demand, power, money, etc.’
In short, seniors fear losing respect or authority due to the entry of a new recruit. This leads seniors to show dejection and disrespect. Here, the reality is that seniors are in fear of losing their respect so they start to suppress the junior even before the candidate starts to open up. This suppression may impact the novice negatively as there is no encouragement or co-operation. This leads to hurt, losing faith in our own talent, and eventually loss of interest in progress or success in the new field. But, if the new employee can boost her/his self-esteem then it is possible to face the situation in a right way.
What to do to clear the misunderstanding and to achieve success in the new field?
Three step solution:
First, convince people that your goal is to work WITH them and you respect them. This removes their fear but it is only half the battle. Still there is lot to do, to make your dream come true.
Second, communicate clearly that you are interested and capable of taking up new challenges and projects. Remember- they do not know your skills or potential. You know them but they do not know you, right? So, you have to briefly give them few examples about your previous work experience. Express, you are willing to take up challenges. Though they are going to be time consuming and may need lot of effort. Tell them you are prepared and ready for such ventures.
Highlight your skills such as: you are a meticulous worker though you are new to the field, people skills, convincing power, ready to invest time, hardworking, interest to learn new methods in the field, etc.
Third, stop fearing consequences. Proceed with confidence. Think positive. Create positive thoughts without any doubt in your mind. For ex: “I am going to be successful in this field”.  Our thoughts have power. OUR POSITIVE THOUGHTS CREATE BRIGHT DESTINY FOR US

Secret power of mind

People use only very small percentage of brain power. We can use our brain more only by realizing that "WE OURSELVES LIMIT OUR CAPACITY AND GET STUCK". If we can use tricks to break those limitations and find solution to disentangle ourselves then we will not be stuck any more.
 
By Neil Slade: Amygdala is the part of a brain behind frontal lobes. Just think that you are tickling it with a feather. This tickling thought will click your amygdala forward will turn your weak brain into a very powerful one, the guy in the video shows how.
Please see powerful videos for more info on boosting your brain and mind power at
 http://mind-booster.blogspot.com
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=BFFLa6enmhQ#!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gd8Zmx3Jmlk&feature=related

 "How to use the Law of attraction" by coach Rich Cavaness
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=Htclp---rNk
We are the architectures and designers of our lives and our futures. We can literally create the life that we want by recognizing the power of your thoughts. Success and achievement begins in the mind. It is an inside out job, not the other way.
Law of attraction: "What you think about most often becomes reality to you."
This is a secret every successful and high achieving individual understands. What we focus on becomes a reality in our lives. "For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he." "You are the commander of your own ship."
I attract to my life whatever I give my attention, energy and focus to, whether positive or negative.
That which is like unto itself is drawn. What you radiate outward in thoughts, feelings, mental pictures, and words, you attract them back into your life. The mind is a magnet and it attracts whatever corresponds to its ruling state.
In short: You are a living magnet. You attract into your life: people, situations, and circumstances that are in harmony with your dominant thoughts. Thoughts become things. Whatever your mind can conceive and believe it can achieve.

Negative thoughts bring ill fate.What evil people dread most will happen to them.
But, good people will get what they want most. People fall into the ditches that they dig.

Whatever we are going through in our life right now is a result of our own past thoughts. So don't say to yourself  'poor me' when you are facing troubles in life. Accepting responsibility for your life is the starting point of all great accomplishment. "Victim mentality vs totally responsible person." 
Stop focusing on what you don't want, thing you are afraid of or avoiding.
Begin to focus on what you actually want, more importantly be gentle to yourself. Say sweetly and softly to yourself that goal you want to achieve and you will one day.

Free summer pass time activities for kids

There are so many activities that we can sign up our kids, for summer time.
Some are: theater, taekwondo, karate, gymanstics, robotics camp, summer camps, day care, etc.,
But if you are looking for something which is free and can be done right from home then I have few ideas for you.

1. Free online typing tutorials
2. Free local library workshops
3. Teach organization skills at home
4. Teach about your culture and traditions
5. Make a family tree
6. Teach your kids your strongest skills

1. Free online typing tutorials:There are some online computer typing learning lessons available for free. Visit this website:  http://www.sense-lang.org/typing/tutor/lessons.php?lang=EN&lesson=1
They have online lessons along with the statistics which help us gain speed. Anybody from age 2 to age 90 can learn this.

2. Teach yourself: Parents are the first teachers of a kid. We are the honest best wishers of our kids. All it needs is little more patience and discipline. Think about he parents who do home schooling, I bet it is lot of dedication and discipline that goes in.
Organization skills: We can teach our kids organization skills by asking them to help you organize the closet, pantry, garage and her/his own room.
Teach you best skills: If you are an artist, singer, painter, dancer or a cook then pass on those skills to them.
My own best skill is 'Presentation'. Being a teacher, I learn't over the years what are the best ways to convey the information. I definitely want to pass on this skill to next generation. So, I picked a topic of my daughter's interest and I asked her to talk about it. Then I taught her the hour glass skills of teaching which she implemented right away.  There you go, kids are so  smart they catch things very fast.
Teach your culture and traditions:  Summers are the best times to teach kids about your own culture by sharing those mythological stories or your own childhood experiences of those special days in your life.
I made a family tree with my daughter in one summer. It gave us a chance to let her know about our parent, grandparents, great grandparents and also revisit some nostalgic times. We both still cherish the total outcome of this activity.
3. Free local library workshops: Go to your local library website and you can find tonnes of summer workshops that are absolutely free. There are workshops for babies, toddlers, kids and adults.
In our library, they have computer savvy workshops which help kids learn all the latest software tools to make animations and update their computer skills. 

Simply improve reading skills by going to reading sites like: http://kids.ocls.info/


Library workshops list and description:

Wii Love Gaming

If you love gaming like we love gaming, come get your game on at the library! Join us for action packed fun with the Nintendo Wii and more!

School Age & Group 9:15

Join our lively storytellers for an entertaining 25 minute session with stories, books, and short videos. These reservation-only sessions are recommended for Kindergarten through 5th grade.

Storybook Fun for Your Little One

These read-aloud programs are recommended for children ages three to five and last approximately 25 minutes. Bring your children often to enjoy folk and animal tales, flannel and big book stories, plus rhymes, songs, and poetry.

Tiny Tales: Rhyme Time for You and Your Baby

These programs, especially for infants from birth to 18 months, last approximately 15 minutes. The rhythm and repetition of nursery rhymes are used to introduce very young children to literature. Hold your child in your lap and enjoy this special time together. Any person requiring special accommodations to participate in any class or program due to a disability may arrange for accommodations by contacting the location at which the event is held at least seven days prior to the event

Smarty Pants

Join us for fun-filled story programs with a learning twist that teach, motivate, entertain and educate all of your Smarty Pants! Recommended for ages 0-5.

Storybook Fun

Thursday, February 23, 2012

These read-aloud programs are recommended for children ages three to five and last approximately 25 minutes. Bring your children often to enjoy folk and animal tales, flannel and big book stories, plus rhymes, songs, and poetry.

Tiny Tales: Rhyme Time for You and Your Baby

These programs, especially for infants from birth to 18 months, last approximately 15 minutes. The rhythm and repetition of nursery rhymes are used to introduce very young children to literature. Hold your child in your lap and enjoy this special time together. Any person requiring special accommodations to participate in any class or program due to a disability may arrange for accommodations by contacting the location at which the event is held at least seven days prior to the event

Toddler Time

Stories and activities for children aged 18 to 36 months. The programs last approximately 20 minutes. The use of picture books, finger plays, songs, poetry and Mother Goose rhymes, and flannel board stories will encourage the development of verbal and listening skills for this active age group.

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Computer Basics Level 2

Learn how to create, rename, delete, and organize files and folders on your computer. Recommended Audience: Adult

Internet Level 2

Learn about search engines and search techniques to help you find exactly what you're looking for. Recommended Audience: Adult. Recommended Prerequisite: Internet Level 1.

Open Lab: Ask A Tech

Are you stuck on a software-related project or simply need constructive ideas to get you started? Let us help! A technology trainer will be available to assist you in this open lab.
PLEASE NOTE: Software questions are handled based on the topics discussed in any of the classes offered at the Library.
Facebook, Twitter and More!

Learn how to collaborate and share information on the Internet 

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